When people ask us how we're doing, we say fine. That’s spontaneous, That’s OK most of the time, but sometimes, it's a good idea to take a good look in the person’s eye. Sometimes it’s a good idea to dive into those eyes, those raging wild tides, those concealed raging emotions and explore. Sometimes its OK to open up and say “No I am not OK, I can do better, if you hold me and let me be. Listen to me I need you to shout at me fight dear fight we are there for you, we are your friends”
I've got a question for you: How are you doing? Sure, of course you're fine. Here's a follow up: How do you know you're doing fine? Tougher question, huh? Have you been smiling enough? Are you yourself or just an identity created by world? What’s the last thought in your mind when you are off to sleep? Do you often wake up with a smile?
When people ask us how we're doing, we respond automatically. I'm fine, we're fine, everything's fine. After all, if we engaged everyone in a rant about the gory truth, about those ripping seems, about that bleeding heart, wont they just turn their back and walk away? Or may be they might make a sorry picture of ours or worst enough they might make fun of us behind our back? So please! We are fine. So fine!!
Why open a can of worms? Don't fix it if it isn't broken. Most of the time, those sayings are all well and good. But sometimes, especially when things aren't going so well, it's actually a nice idea to be honest and scream, “No we are not fine. And what are you doing there? Don’t you know its your right to invade my privacy, and rip me off my secrets?” So here I am. A friend.. asking you “How are you?” I am here, confide in me, trust this word” friendship” it’s a clan of angels provided to us , it’s a gift. Cherish it and make the most of it.. reach out!! Hold on!! I am here!!
I wont say I am your friend forever .Forever is a very long time. How is it that people can talk so casually about a concept that don’t even exist? we cannot even wrap our minds around this thought. Nothing stays forever. I might move out. You might forget me. I might dismiss you. Time and their rough tides,who can sustain them? Can we really comprehend situations levied on us? Can we really predict our future? Anything might happen? But sometimes we have a friend and we sense that our souls are very closely connected. We know that the connection is above time and space. We know that wherever we are in our lives we will always remain friends. Even if we do not see each other for years we are able to pick up right where we left off. This is what people mean when they say friends forever. So tell me “ how are you?”
They say a good bond is one that provides you anchor when time hits rough tide... They say a good pact is one that stretch out hand and hold you when you stagger on the walks of life... They say a fine treaty is the one where even before you speak your pain is heard. But I say a fine bonding is the one that casts you into something that you want to be, a burning, raging, confident person, sets you ablaze, makes you burn through the skies and ignite the night like a phoenix; the kind that cuts you loose like a wildfire and you can't stop running you run and you run until you are out of breath, exhausted but far far way from your woes, I say that's a good bond, one that burns yet sooths…
So lets start this exercise in a more honest way. “How are you?”
I Think about that the next time somebody asks you how you're doing.